Relationship 101:
Here to talk about love again like I’m a master of it. So here’s the deal…
IT’S HARD TO LET GO OF SOMEONE YOU’VE BEEN WITH IN A LONG TIME. Or should I just say it’s hard to let go PERIOD. It’s hurtful and it’s inevitable. Everyone knows that even Taylor Swift got it all figured out which resulted to a line in her song:
Wondering why we bother with love if it never lasts
TRUE, very true! We often get ourselves into a relationship knowing so well that it could end anytime. And with that sad fact, we fool ourselves into saying “we’d never know unless we try”. And so we try… A LOT! And every time that it’s bye-bye time our whole world crashes like there’s no tomorrow waiting for us; like we don’t know it’s gonna happen. And what’s awful about it is that we often say “Why? I did everything…”
Honestly blogging, I was THAT. I get myself in a relationship and do everything; give anything she’d ask for, follow her rules, be what she wants me to be, keep up with her, and make her my world and stuffs knowing that by doing so… I could make her stay. And that thought was crap, nothing but crap. Only good thing is that I learned. See, we use to think that way… its nature and it has even been clichéd that “when you love someone, do everything you can to make them stay”. And we dwell too much in it, thinking that if we want a love forever we just gotta do everything for them to make ‘em stay. Which is an absolute bull****. I’ve been in love, I’ve done everything as I said but in the end I didn’t even came across forever land not even a sight of it from a far. I still ended up losing the ones I’ve loved for reasons I don’t even want to mention because I might drown in its shallowness. And when I happened to lose them I got hurt big time. And I was like “I did everything just for this?” Trust me, it was the shit-est realization I’ve ever came upon in my life. And I got so devastated because it was too hard to accept like everything you’ve done turns out to be nothing at all. And I thought it was unfair. Sometimes when we do things we can’t help but expect. In fact, expectations become our prime reason from doing everything. We expect because we know we are more than willing to do just as much and with this we forget about what the other wants. We just want them to do as they are expected. And that one thing I learned is that we’re absolutely missing the whole point in this. In LOVE, there’s no such thing as “I deserve this”. That when you do a thing for someone would make you earn a “deserving” ribbon. If you love someone you do everything JUST because you love him/her. You can’t do things and expect something in return like as if he/she asked for it.
So it’s definitely a no brainer, doing everything is not the key to forever. And who knows what it is. It’s not really that important. LOVE IS NOT AN OBLIGATION OR A RESPONSIBILITY; IT’S MORE OF A PRIVELEDGE. It isn’t about give and take. If you love someone “give” would be normal and “take” wouldn’t matter. If you’re giving so much and taking only little, smarten up! It’s a HINT you jits! The person doesn’t love you just as much so save yourself from a massive heartache and learn to live without ‘em. STOP GIVING THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT! It’ll kill you.
Love is simple… we just make it a whole lot more complicated than it is JUST supposed to be. WHAT’S WRONG WITH US? Rules have been laid bold and precise and we just break ‘em whenever we fall head-over-heels in love. What happened to “never expect anything?” Love with your heart is a good thing. You can even give it all out. But it would be way better if you put just a little brain in it.
